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Unbecoming Candice

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The statement that started it all…

Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming something, but about Unbecoming everything that isn’t really me so I can be who I was meant to be in the first place.”

Stephanie Harrison

I totally hope you are loving “The Stories” as much as I am. I know the strength it takes for these girls to step up and speak out! I have known Candice for about 20 years now and ALOT has changed in that time, duh! When I met her, she was a teenager…now she is a Wife, Mom, and a Superstar Boss Lady…for REALS! I have walked with Candice through some incredible seasons of victory AND some super tough seasons, and I can say this for certain – “I am a better person because of our friendship.” If you have ever struggled with perfectionism (mmm…guilty), dealt with the loss of a parent at a young age, or been overcome with grief…allow her story to compel your Unbecoming!

The older I get, the more I realize how much the world, and the experiences I’ve lived through, aim to change me. But God knew me before I was even in my mother’s womb. He created me with a specific design, for a specific purpose. Only I can fulfill that purpose in the earth, no one else.

Candice’s youngest son Ben 8 & Joe, her Husband of 16 years

I’ve been blessed beyond belief to be a part of a movement to help me to Unbecome all the things that I was never meant to be in the first place.
My sister, role model, friend, and Pastor Stephanie, initiated this movement a few years ago. To be quite honest, though I LOVED this message, this movement, I thought it was more necessary for others at first. I was good. I was all set.

…But God began to move in my heart and show me that I had spent my whole life trying to be this “perfect” girl. Perfect daughter, perfect sister, perfect wife, perfect church girl, perfect mother, perfect career woman.

Candice & her first son Will 13

I thought I had to be perfect to make up for other things that life had brought upon my family. Loss and grief found me at a young age, as young as 8 years old. Because of the loss my family suffered, I thought I needed to be perfect, make EVERYTHING perfect, to alleviate strain on my family. That carried through my childhood, teen years, marriage – until the Unbecoming Movement! I caused myself so much silent stress inside, even to the point of excess weight that I carried in my physical body for a decade!

While I always still strive for excellence – God has shown me that my value to Him, or anyone that loves me, is NOT based on my ability to create the appearance of perfection. I’m made by Him, for His delight. Yes, God delights in me, I’m perfect for Him. That’s the only perfect I can see in my world anymore. I am STILL Unbecoming every day! Today, I now help lead this movement of women to Unbecome everything they were never created to be. Today I am healthy, I am sure of myself, I don’t have to fix every mess (that’s God’s job), and I AM ENOUGH!

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